How to be less shy around guys and people generally?
I hate being shy. When I am spending time with a guy I like I feel so held back by shyness. I can’t relax and be myself. When I hang out with guys I am not attracted to I am totally myself and I have great conversations with them and feel able to open up, however if I like a guy I just can’t be myself. I went on a date with this one guy recently and the next day he was talking with one of my friends and she asked how our date was and he said something along the lines of that I was too quiet and it’s a shame because he can sense that deep down I am really cool. After that however he kept in contact and we met a few days later and I was a bit more relaxed and we got on well and kissed and he told me that he likes my shyness and thinks it’s a good quality in girls (better than mouthy) and that it’s "cute". It didn’t go any further because I left the country soon after (not because of him!..haha). I just feel like shyness is holding me back and if anyone can give me any tips or advice I would really appreciate it..and will repay your kindness with 10 points 
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i think that you shyness will go away after a while you just have to keep on working on it with anybody that you may like. Pretend you are talking to just another plain guy that you don’t like and you’ll find your way. in life you are going to meet a lot of new people and you might like some and you have to think as them as the regulars so you could just talk and not think about that you like them. i wish you the best of luck
it just takes practice and time
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Take deep breaths. and if you feel awkword, take out your phone, and text a bunch of your friends, then dont anwser the texts right away. that always makes me giggle and he thinks its adorable.
Just be confident about whatever you do. . .
i feel the same way im generally just a quiet person but im trying to brake out of it and i think u should why not just try not to be nervous and talk a little more and act yourseslf guys will like that much better becuase they get to know the real you , good luck xoxo(:
Strong confident women are turn offs. Keep acting how you’re acting.
you have to practice!! practice makes perfect. it will be hard at first but you’ll never get better at it if you don’t try.
also get the book "good bye to shy" and read that. it will help a lot.
i have the same problem the only things that’ve worked for me is to get to know each person rly well and once i do i see my self talking alot more (usually takes a year tho b4 i get to know people better) and right now i justed moved so every one is new to me and im extremely quiet the entire day i hate it
Yeah, I know what you mean. You just gotta try and stay confident and keep things going. Pretend the person isn’t good-looking, it’s hard to do but it’ll help a bit I think.
Hey Ellie, Here’s what you should do.
If you really want to hang out with guys but not like date, then you should talk about something maybe that they like, and maybe you have one. And get them to come to your house, and you two could play video games. Or something he like. So, you will be yourself, and try not to get nervous. Because God is always thinking of you, and he ill always protect you.
Love,
Morgan Bo Borgan
I totally understand where you’re coming from. I’m the exact same way and now bc of it i mite have a ruined a chance to be with the girl i like. You just can’t be scared to let go and be yourself. It’s better to have the other person not like you for being yourself then not like you for not being yourself. Trust me if you like a guy and you really wanna be with him you’re gna have to open up or any chances yall have are gna b missed. Just try to find common things to talk about and dnt b scared to flirt. Me being a guy i promise we love when girls flirt with us. I enjoy the little things most jus like when a girl texts me goodnite or hope you have a great day. it lets us know you’re thinking about us as much as we’re thinking about you. I hope this helps and i really hope things work out for you.
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I used to be just like you hehe. But iwould say in order to not be shy around the guys you are attracted to is just be yourself around your friends and act as if he wasnt there. The more that you put the thought of him out of your mind and act like he’s invisible then that will help you feel more comfortable or act as if he already has a girl and he’s not into you. Just dont over do it. However i’m not saying to ignore him completely. Just goof off but not too weird-like. If you’re active, energetic and talkative he’ll find you more interesting. And if his friends talk to you a lot he might find the need to talk to you too because you seem interesting. Be outgoing. Take risks. Act like its your last day to just live your life. Once you take that risk and finally do itt, it’ll be easier for the next time you come across a cute guy.. I hope this helps. It works for me.. And stop thinking so negative. You dont have to be a loud mouthy person. Just be exciting and look fun. Wouldnt you want somebody like that???
The way I get over my shyness is to just tell yourself that you’re the best.
Just reassure yourself that you’re beautiful. It took me along time to get over my shyness.
each person holds a power within more powerful than a thousand suns
we have all come to understand as love that makes us do things that will make us regret it for the rest of our lives even result in suicide
the reason why your shy is that you fear this life long mistake and it can get over whelming
I have no suggestion its just part of life
it like as soon as he appears you have completely forgotten how to speak
just try telling urself hez just another guy. Nothing to be afraid of. He cant ever like you if he doesnt see the real you. Try acting as if he is your best guy friend. Or try being totally normal as if it is just another day, at just another place. hope i helpd