How do I flirt with him? Help I’m not a teenager!!?
My son and his son are on the same little league teams. I met him last year and we have remained in contact ever since. I am normally not a shy person but, I get very nervous around him. I have caught him checking me out on several occassions but, he doesn’t seem to ever flirt with me. He talks to me like I am one of his business associates. Recently he was hospitalized due to an accident and I did not find out about it till he was being released from the hospital. I asked him if my son and I could come over and see him since my son spends a lot of time with his son, I thought I’d bring him along. He said "Sure maybe on Saturday". I then felt like I had just pushed myself on him by inviting myself so come Saturday I didn’t contact him, instead I got a phone call from him asking me at what time I was thinking about going over. I ended up going over and we talked for two hours about our kids sports season and about his surgery but that was it. I don’t know how to flirt with him. I tense up. Also, I once sent him an e-mail telling him that he was on my mind a lot lately but, I never got a response.
I have been divorced for two years and I am in my early thirties so I don’t know how to go about this whole flirting thing any more. How are we adults supposed to flirt without coming accross as juvenile?
Any tips will be appreciated.
Yes, I do know for a fact he is single. I met his ex wife and she is really nice, but I didn’t go into conversation with her. He and I talk to each other via phone or text at least once a week but, we only see each other at the kids games or when we get the kids together.
He’s also been divorced for approx two years now. And I sent the e-mail like 7 months ago about three months after I met him.
I have never been one to be desperate because I can be patient but, I don’t feel like i’m getting any signs from him other than him checking me out.
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When you want to flirt with someone that keeps looking at you and you know he is interested in you, but doesn’t want to make a move it’s best to make a move yourself which you did with the coming over his house on Saturday. But you felt awkward because you couldn’t talk about anything except your sons and his surgery(can’t avoid that it’s good to show that you care). The best way to keep the conversations flowing or starting one is to ask questions that you want to know answers to, but try not to get too personal at first. Some examples can be what he does for living, some hobbies, foods, and etc you might think of better ones. But don’t ask simple question which you can get one word answers to.
So yea ask questions that you would like to ask him and you would like to talk about and once he starts to reply you will know what to do from there either answer in your opinion, agree, or ask a follow up question. After the conversation springs up and you guys get to know each other better you will get more out him like questions, moods, laughs, and he might even start to make a move. I don’t mean like going at you I mean like some regular first time dating type of things. Touching, hugging, laughing, and etc.
Hope I helped.
When I first read it I thought you were saying you liked your sons friend…
Haha.
Anyways
I am not in my 30’s I am 16. But I just smile, and get to know the guy, Make eyecontact
Well to be honest, it sort of comes naturally! Here are some tips though:
Obvious ways of flirtation for both sexes are eye contact, smiling, touching of the other’s arm, knee, shoulder, just being in close proximity. You don’t realize the signals you’re giving out already if you’re genuinely interested.
You don’t have to have a crush on someone to flirt with them. Some people flirt with the opposite gender, and they have no intention of dating, or even having a crush on them.
You don’t really have to like the person(s) you could just flirt cause it is your nature,
Flirtation is part of sexual attraction and as younger people get into their teens and older they are flirting and often don’t realize they are. It’s natural and some people’s personalities are considered flirtatious with many people whether they are interested in them as just a friend, a prospect for dating or a coworker. It’s part of the individuals personality. To try and flirt at too early an age could backfire so it’s best to just be you and someone will think you are flirtatious or find you attractive.
Do you know for a fact that he’s single? If he is, then you’re going to have to take a different approach to this. You’ll need an opportunity where the two of you can be alone, so you can get to know each other on a different level without the kiddos. The next time you run into him, perhaps at one of you son’s games, ask him if he would like to have dinner together one night. Leave it open-ended like that. If you start setting dates & times, that may be too pushy. If he responds, with a "sure, sounds good"…that’s a good sign. If he seems hesitant, then you’ll have to try harder. Once you’re alone and can talk about your likes and dislikes, hobbies…etc, etc… the flirting will come naturally if there are any sparks. Good Luck!
You don’t say when you sent the email and got no response – ouch!
Why don’t you just play the ‘friend’ game and see where it takes you.
You don’t say how long he has been divorced/was it his doing or his ex wife?
You can arrange sleep overs for the boys – that way he will drop him off and you can invite him in for coffee – go on about how well the boys get along.
Be honest! Say you find it difficult to be back on the singles team and ask him if he has any suggestions as to what you should/should not be doing and make a joke of it.
It sounds like he is afraid of getting burnt so is keeping his distance.
Keep it friendly and light. Apologise for the email and watch his response. Tell him you value his friendship and his insight as a male in the same singles team and didn’t mean to come across as pushy because you are not that type.
He will appreciate the honesty and you can begin again without feeling awkward. You will get to see him at the little league team outings and just be friendly and see what develops. Men hate desperate women and he may be afraid that if he dates you and it doesn’t work out that it will be awkward when your boys meet up or suggest future sleep overs/outings etc.
Just look as pretty and happy and confident as you can and he will be attracted to that – not a needy woman.
Good Luck.x
Start asking him about himself and things that interest him (not all at one time) you may have other interest in common. If not pick out one and tell him you’ve always had an interest in that, but no one to teach you or no time to learn . Or is it hard to learn about it. or what are the most important things to remember about it.
Start a home project that you know is way above your head(you know nothing about) and ask his advise. It’s a Man Thing, know what I mean.?
Got a leaky faucet, torn screen, want to put a new lock on a door that doesn’t need it, (get the picture?)