Your Thoughts on Online Dating?
A friend of mine met her boyfriend of several months via Match.com and their relationship is great. Another friend dated a couple different guys via Match.com and both highly recommended it to me.
So anyway, I’ve signed up and it seems like many of the guys want to meet me in person right away. My intuition tells me to do some online chatting/e-mail exchanging first.
What do you think is good online dating protocol?
Tips and tricks for a newbie to the whole thing?
By the way, I broke up with my first love 8 months ago and I’m just now trying to get back in the game. It seems like online dating would be a great way to meet people I wouldn’t normally meet.
Wow…People have had some scary experiences. Yikes!
But it seems to me that that’s just as likely to happen if you meet somebody at, say, a bar or a night club. It seems like if you don’t give away personal details and use common sense (i.e. meet in public, don’t tell them where you live, etc) it would be ok…
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I met my husband through yahoo personals. And the hoopla about people saying online dating is not safe, unless you are dating a bunch of guy friends all the men you have dated at one point were strangers to you. You have to use common sense when dating period, wether it’s online or otherwise.
Anyways, ofcourse they want to meet right away. They want to date. You can’t get to know someone over the phone or chatting. But that is the first step. Give it around a week and decide if you feel comfortable enough to meet the guy. If you are having doubts by all means don’t go. Trust your gut instinct. Meet in a public place and arrive in seperate cars. Meet at the mall for coffee or something. Goodluck.
i don’t believe in online dating
as long as she lives close, i can meet up, theres on problem right?
i really don’t like the idea of online dating! its not safe!
dont meet anyone right away. email them or chat with them than talk to them via phone than only meet…
i met my bf online threw myspace
he messaged me.. i think we talked a few times on msn.. not to much then we agreed to meet up..
we spent the entire day together hanging out and such.. we hung out once more and talked a bit more on msn.. and then he asked me to be his gf
we have been pretty well inseperable since.. and have lived together for over a year
I don’t believe in it BUT if you must. Let the first date be a group setting. Tell him to bring a friend or two and you do the same. Meet at a public place with lots of people during the day time. Be very careful and make sure that someone else knows exactly where you are going to be and who you are going to be with.
I never really tried it, but it can’t be any worst than the bar seen. I say give it a shot. I would probably email and chat before I met them in person.
Yes, i support online dating. I have been in a online relationship for a year now, known him for two years. I love it because you can base people on the inside instead of just what’s on the outside.
I’ve actually gone through the online dating. The best pieces of advice to give you are: A lot of times they may not be telling you the truth about their background, education etc…the other thing is; NEVER meet someone alone. If they are THAT anxious to meet you right away, that’s not a good sign. That tells you they’re desperate and will "take anything". I’ve had two dates go wrong; one; lied about what he looked like and the other one lied about his looks AND his background. The first one after I saw him from a distance, I left because he wasn’t not the same person in height/weight appearance. Neither was the other. JUST BECAREFUL WITH WHOM YOU TALK WITH AND WHERE TO MEET. Don’t let them know at all where you live or #s etc…
I tried it and didnt like it, you have to beware of all the con artists out there, they will ask you a lot of personal questions, but will offer nothing in return, And dont ever send anyone money, But listen everyone has different results, its not all bad, just be careful, Good luck.
I think Online Dating can be a good and bad experience depending upon the person’s perspective.
I got into online dating a few months ago… I think it’s a great way to meet people. My only concern is sometimes you really have to be selective who you talk to and not everyone is gonna be totally honest what they say in their profile. And also, it gets discouraging sometimes when the internet dating is a superficial place where people are just biased or judgemental.
I would say trust your instincts and I think it’s a good idea to establish a connection first where you can email the others before meeting them or giving out your phone number.
married cpl here
we’d like to say that our thoughts online dating is really enirely up to you bc it can work in its good ways but other ways it can be bad but it defetnly woked for us we met online and ended up gettng married
have any more questions email us
good luck to you
pro’s .. new & exciting !!
con’s .. 30% of guys on match.com are predators or just in it for sex ..
my advice … from my couzins experience ..
she tried 32 different guys .. 31 was wanting to meet her right away … 1 was resally nice and respected her wish to take it slow , when she finally trusted him well they met and he tried ro rape her and then tried to tie her till she kicked him in the nuts . he is in prison ..she found out he raped 10 other girls from online and 6 were dead.
so they caught him..
now what do you think?
THEY SUCK !!!!
Keep in mind that many men(including married ones) use the on line dating services to find women to use. It is like an all you can eat buffet. Be very cautious in meeting them in person until you email or even talk on the phone to them. It’s hard to tell a good one from a bad one and married vs. single. A guy I worked with(not friends with) used the on line service to line up dates for sexual gratification. He was involved with 3 different ones and was using them by making them believe he was seeing only each one of them. He did eventually get caught by two of them in lies, but the third one still doesn’t know. There are good and decent men using the services so don’t condemn the service. Just use your common sense and don’t take the men you meet through it at face value. Get to know them quite awhile before you decide to get involved intimately. You could get heartbroke pretty easily by trusting too quick. Good Luck.
my sister was killed after meeting her online boyfriend after dating online for 2 years .. he was safe warm had everything in common .
i heard he just killed another one 2 states over ..
i called in because i recognised him
I have met several people on Match.com. The ones who want to meet right away just want sex. The ones who ask to meet in a public place are generally okay, and open to the suggestion of more talk first. The best ones are the ones who just want to talk at first, and reveal information over time, with your first date taking place a few weeks after that first wink or e-mail.
Something you might notice in most of the profiles is that they are "not into the club scene anymore." Basically, this means all the sharks you used to meet at the clubs are now on Match.com. Be VERY wary of that website. You can meet some good people there, but the number of good guys looking for a good girl online are about the same as the number of good guys looking for good girls at your local bar.
myself after I was married for 10 years it ended . I wasn’t looking for anyone special but found him on-line. On-line dating is fun and a great way to become friends first.If you are doing this on the rebound be cautious,because you could get hurt again. Many people find their idea mates on line and they usually last . do not met right away.correspond via email, phone and just chatting on line. if you have a good friendship then proceed but never jump right in with both feet.
Online dating is not a bad thing if you know what to look out for and stay clear of the bad mishaps that could come up, other wise it is a great way to meet friends and even find that special someone, although it does not work for everyone, just be careful.
while some guys are true like the ones your friends met ..
i dated mine for 4 years and well i didn’t know it but he used web detective and found my phone number and where I lived and had my computer hacked he was looking at everything i was looking at , read my mail and if i emailed a guy hewould email them using my account .. and tell them not to email me anyomer..he found out from hacking my online banking and was drawing money out so i lost my house and car .. and he had my phones tapped …
so after giving myself wholey to the guy chatting and emailing him .. he was ruining me. started sending sick mail to my house …
i reported him to the police and found out he molests children and was in my area before ..he was wanted here and was setting me up to make me look like i was the one molesting me.
now do you want tips and tricks?
Re :My intuition tells me to do some online chatting/e-mail exchanging first.
i thought the same thing till one ‘ happened ‘ to show up at my door one night and beat and raped me .
find someone real sweetie and in person !
you don’t want to wake up too see the marks still there from the rape . it’s hard to lie when someone asks me what the marks on my leg
are from.
ooh how did he know where i lived ?
unkown to me he hacked into my computer and saw on my online banking profile to get my address !
there kool i meet my first boyfriend online and he turned out be be grate but be careful there are a lot of freaks out there. there also can suck .you could be hurt badly if he was cheatin on you . you never no just be careful
The good online protocol is
(1) Exchange mails, messages, chatting and all the communications on the online dating site alone initially, till you guys get to know better. This is important because the conversations done outside online dating site are at your responsibility. Don’t give mail ids and phone # initially.
(2) Once initial screening is done and u decided upon the guy communicate with him more to get to know better. As U developed confidence U guys can exchange mails outside the dating site.
(3) Give phone # only when you feel confidence.
Hope this helps
I think when the concept first appeared, it seemed unsafe & odd to many people, but times have changed. Check the statistics, I even heard Dr. Phil (not that I’m a big fan of his, but the man has the facts) say that online dating has become as safe, if not safer, than many of the usual ways to meet the opposite sex. I have met several good & interesting men online, and am currently building a relationship with one. The key is to take your time (like months), get to know each other VERY well through online conversation before any meeting takes place, and when you do meet, follow all the rules for safety…public place, short visit, etc. Keep your wits about you, watch for red flags, use common sense…good luck!
i think that love can be found anywhere and that includes online.. and we shouldnt constrain ourselves when finding for our partners and we nvr know where we will be able to find the right person.. to me, online dating works because i met the guy of my dreams online and we are still very much in love till today and its bcs of the connection we feel with one another is just amazing that we plan to be with each other till the end of time.. good luck:)