the man i love and live with, gets mean when he drinks alcohol?
I’m 40, he’s 45..both attracive, both divorced. we met a year ago through an internet dating service. We lived 3 1/2 hours apart, dated for 4 months and then i moved to where he is. 70% of the time he is a sweetheart. but there are times when he gets drunk and gets nasty (not physical) telling me to leave, he’s better off by himself, he dosn’t love me , blah blah blah…
after acting like this,(usualy the next day, or 2nd day at the latest) he tells me we will continue to try..never really apologising..but definately making an effort to resolve our fude. On a normal day, he loves me, we get along well, good with both families, do things together, have friends…ect.. but on these drunken times, it rips my heart out and I often think i should just leave and not put up with this. I have looked for my own place, but our fued is always resolved before i even go to look at an place. I pray that i will be shown a way to deal with him in drunken times. I know he loves me, and am confused
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No matter what I say here you are gonna do what your heart tells you at the end, but honestly you should make him respect you…. no one has the right to treat you bad even if he is drunk… that´s no excuse….
get him into classes for alchoholics.
sweets, i know this is very hard ..and this is going to be hard for me to tell you this, but you need to get out. no WOMAN, deserves a man who is going to tel her shes not wanted, or not loved..and you shouldnt have to deal with a drunk man 20% of the time.. too much time..
you either need to..1.. leave him and go back on the dating site
or 2..you need to get him serious help.. he needs to go to rehab or a anger management class..for real im serious
i know this all sounds crazy what im saying but if u really have to sit online and ask yourself over n over what to do? then u really dont deserve this! good luck and let me kno how it goes
work with him to stop his alcoholism or get out!! u wanna leave b4 it gets too bad if things dont get better
If you feel like you can handle this for the rest of your life, so be it. However, this will get real old quick. You should not have to feel this way and he obviously has some inside issues of himself. He needs to recognize that he has this problem and then he needs to fix it. If not for himself, than for you if this relationship is going to go anywhere. Maybe you can be the one to help him through this but he has to be willing to try. And remember, actions speak louder than words. Good luck girly.
I think you need to tell him to stop drinking because its messing up your relationship between each other… Tell me if he doesn’t stop drinking your leaving
You need to find yourself somewhere to live either alone or pref. with a roommate (female) give your selves some space y’all go to close to fast apart you will either get closer or get over each other either way physical abuse follow verbal abuse 90% of the time
Maybe you should just stop hanging around with him when he is drinking. . . . . Maybe you could ask him to stop drinking when he is with you since it is painful for you mentally.
You said you’re 40 years old. If he doesn’t quit drinking you should leave him. Maybe you can find someone else that is more considerate when he is drunk. ; )
hey, this is a nightmare
just leave him to a sober guy that you can love and live with
You need him to head out to A.A. if he won’t go you nead to head out and don’t look back.
I have alot of experience with this , it doesn’t get better without help, no matter what he says or how much want it to be so.
GOOD LUCK
LEAVE. NOW!!!!!! There are over 6 BILLION people on the planet. There is no reason you need to subject yourself to this kind of mental abuse. Leave and tell him to get to classes, get cleaned up and then you can maybe start anew.
LEAVE, it doesn’t get better, you’ve allowed him to get away with it, and he won’t quite til he kills you. I have been there and it doesn’t matter our age, or our IQ, it still humiliates us. which is exactly what they want it to do.Mine was good for 90% of the time, but that 10%, was HELL, I lost my self esteem which took years, to get over. I would pray for God to take him or me, i didn’t care which, all i knew was, i had to get out for my safety and sanity. Once, he beat me so bad, my lips were turned inside out, and i would loose my sight at sundown, because my black eyes would swell closed. so good luck and my prayers are with you